Realistically, Jatuh Cinta dengan Jesi & Arvhie

Kita sering mendengar bahwa jatuh cinta adalah sebuah pengalaman yang magical dan juga unik. Dunia terasa seperti lebih menyenangkan bagi kita yang sedang merasakannya. Kita jadi bisa melihat dunia dari sisi baru penuh dengan kebahagiaan. Rasanya, hati berdegup kencang dan pikiran menjadi lebih clear. Jatuh cinta adalah sebuah perjalanan transformatif yang membuka mata kepada segala kemungkinan yang ada.

Walau terdengar sangat romantis, baiknya kita juga harus ingat bahwa ‘menjaga’ cinta itu sendiri perlu kerja keras dari keduanya yang tengah merasakan. Lagipula kata orang bijak, ‘love is an emotion that should be the foundation of two souls working together to achieve certain goals,’ realistisnya. Sayangnya, kita bukan putri dan pangeran yang hidup di dunia dongeng, bukan?

Proses jatuh cinta pun tidak melulu terjadi seperti di film. Walaupun begitu, ada beberapa di antara kita yang beruntung, bisa bertemu dengan the one hanya dalam satu kali tatap mata. Setelahnya, kita juga harus menghadapi segala permasalahan dan terima kenyataan bahwa those butterflies in your stomach are not there 24/7. Seperti yang tadi kami bilang, beberapa di antara kita ada yang beruntung, seperti pasangan yang baru menikah ini, Jesi & Arvhie yang bertemu pertama kali saat masih di bangku SD. Iya, mereka adalah salah satu tipe pasangan beruntung yang mengalami ‘meet-cute’, ‘movie-esque’, dan hubungan romantis layaknya di film. Namun, percayalah, pemahaman mereka akan kata cinta itu jauh lebih dalam dan bijak dari apa yang kita lihat online.

“Jesi itu waktu SD cantik, baik. Tapi aku juga nggak tahu kenapa saat itu cowok-cowok tuh nggak melihat dia seperti itu. Dia nggak dapat banyak atensi dari cowok umuranku,” jelas Arvhie bernostalgia dengan Eyelovin.

“Arvhie tuh dulu banyak yang naksir. Aku cuek aja saat itu,” Jesi tertawa, melengkapi cerita bagaimana mereka berdua bisa bertemu saat umur 6 tahun. Jesi & Arvhie tinggal di satu kompleks perumahan sama, mereka tidak tahu kalau ternyata diam-diam Arvhie jatuh cinta pada pandangan pertama. Waktu terus berjalan dan mereka menjalani hidup normal sebagai anak SD yang belum memahami arti cinta.

“Setelah SD itu kita masuk SMP. Ada yang share BBM PIN Arvhie, aku add aja karena aku mikirnya, aku kenal dia dari SD. Kita saling chat, setelah 3 hari, Arvhie nembak aku,” Jesi menceritakan bagaimana akhirnya mereka bisa pacaran. Jelas, ini puppy-love.

“Pacaran aku sebelumnya tuh aku nggak pernah nembak duluan. Selalu ditembak. Tapi dengan Jesi beda, aku yang nembak dan aku lebih suka gitu sih,” Arvhie menambahkan.

Sejak saat itu, mereka tidak terpisahkan. Mereka melewati SMP, SMA dan juga universitas bersama. Walaupun mereka tidak pernah bersekolah di sekolah yang sama tapi mereka berhasil tumbuh dan saling membentuk pribadi satu sama lain. Mereka tidak hanya berhasil bertemu the love of their life tapi juga berhasil menjadi sahabat. Sekarang setelah lebih dari 10 tahun bersama, Jesi & Arvhie bisa dengan bangga mengatakan bahwa mereka forever bound dalam pernikahan.

“Sejujurnya, aku nggak pernah kepikiran akan nikah sama Arvhie. Karena saat itu aku juga nggak menganggap ini serius. Aku masih SMP dan belum kepikiran pernikahan. Tapi rasa sayang itu tumbuh. Pas SMA aku baru mulai paham cinta itu apa dan aku baru sadar kalau aku sayang banget sama Arvhie, dari situ kita mulia serius,” kata Jesi.

“Aku tahu sih emang Jesi orangnya,”kata Arvhie.

“Iya gimana sih, kalau emang udah tahu aja ini memang orangnya,” tambah Jesi.

Menjadi pasangan yang baru menikah pastinya menyenangkan dan juga challenging dalam waktu yang bersamaan. Ada banyak hal yang harus disesuaikan. Lagipula, ini adalah dua individu berbeda yang disatukan. Bagaimana saling menghargai individualitas pasangan tapi tetap harmonis bekerja sama dibutuhkan kerja keras dan kebijaksanaan dari keduanya.

“Romantic relationship buat aku itu hubungan yang menghargai satu sama lain. Komunikasi yang baik itu diperlukan. Belajar mendengarkan apa yang pasangan inginkan atau butuhkan juga penting. Empati itu harus selalu dilakukan,” kata Jesi dengan bijak.

“Bersama Jesi itu mengajarkan aku banyak hal baru. Dia berhasil membentuk aku menjadi pribadi yang lebih baik. Sebelumnya aku tuh cuek banget. Tapi Jesi selalu jelasin dia kepingin aku lebih perhatian. Jadi aku belajar untuk lebih perhatian. Hal itu juga jadinya berdampak ke hubungan aku dengan orang sekitar aku. Aku jadi lebih perhatian. Aku jadi paham kalau ga semuanya itu tentang diri aku. Aku jadi lebih mikirin perasaan orang,” jelas Arvhie.

Pastinya ada perbedaan di tiap hubungan. Tapi bagaimana kita bisa berkomunikasi tanpa memaksakan adalah hal yang juga penting. Untuk Jesi & Arvhie, komunikasi benar-benar menjadi kunci utama. Berkomunikasi itu bukan hanya jago berbicara tapi juga bagaimana kita harus bisa mendengarkan dan memahami satu sama lain.

Menunjukan rasa sayang itu juga hal yang penting. Terkadang, memahami adanya perbedaan bisa menyelesaikan insecurities kita akan apakah pasangan kita benar-benar sayang dengan kita atau nggak. Contohnya, Arvhie menunjukkan rasa sayangnya dengan tidak pernah demand Jesi untuk menjadi seseorang yang bukan Jesi. Arvhie menerima Jesi apa adanya. Bagi Jesi, menunjukkan rasa sayang itu dengan taking care Arvhie. Belajar memasak adalah salah satu caranya. “Walaupun Arvhie nggak pernah minta aku masak. Aku akhirnya belajar masak. Karena ketika aku masak, aku jadi puas gitu kasih ke Arvhie makanan aku, aku taking care orang yang aku sayang. Walaupun itu cuma masakan simple aja,” kata Jesi berbinar-binar.

Berhubung sekarang Valentine’s day… semoga cerita Jesi & Arvhie bisa menjadi pengingat bagi kita semua akan pentingnya komunikasi dan kompromi di dalam hubungan. Semoga kita bisa terus mengapresiasi kehadiran cinta dan juga bagaimana cara ‘bekerjanya’ di realita. Cinta adalah emosi yang kita ingin terus pupuk agar nantinya bisa bertumbuh menjadi hal-hal baik bagi kita, pasangan kita dan juga orang-orang di sekeliling kita.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Eyebabes. Have a blissful one with your loved ones.

P.S: Kalau kamu masih ingin tahu lebih tentang Jesi & Arvhie, click video di bawah ini ya.

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They say, falling in love is a magical and a unique experience. From the eyes of those experiencing it, it can feel like the world suddenly becomes a brighter and more beautiful place. It's like seeing the world in a new light, with a heightened sense of excitement and joy. The heart races faster and the mind becomes clearer.. Falling in love is a transformative journey that opens the eyes to a world of endless possibilities.

But one must also remember that maintaining the feeling of love requires the hard work of both people. Unfortunately, we live in a reality, not a fairytale world, which is why the wise said 'love is an emotion that should be the foundation of two souls working together to achieve certain goals'. We're not princesses or princes living in a fairytale world, are we?

Well, the process of falling in love isn't always like in the movies. Although some of us are lucky enough to meet the 'one' by the first glimpse of the eye, the process of falling in love isn't always like in the movies. We still need to face all the hard times. Like we said, some of us are lucky to have met the one, like these two newly-wed couples, Jesi & Arvhie, who first met when they were back in elementary school. Yes, they're one of the fortunates ‘meet-cute’, ‘movie-esque’, ‘romantic’ type couples that you see in movies. But trust us, their understanding of love is way deeper and wiser than what you could see online.

“I remember Jesi was pretty and funny back in elementary school. But, I don’t know why guys my age at the time didn’t really see her as such. She didn’t get that much attention back then,” explained Arvhie nostalgically to Eyelovin.

“Arvhie had a lot of girls crushing over him. I didn’t care that much,” Jesi laughed, completing the story of how they first saw each other at 6 years old. These two were living inside one neighborhood. Little did they know, Arvhie fell in love at first sight. Time goes on and they were just living their normal life as elementary school kids that didn’t yet understand the meaning of ‘love’.

“So, after elementary school we went to different junior highschool.. Someone shared Arvhie’s BBM PIN and I thought, ‘okay… I know him from elementary school’, so I added him. We texted on BBM and after 3 days, he asked me to be his girlfriend,” Jesi opened up on how they ended up together. Indeed, it was puppy-love.

“I never declared love first, it was always the girl. They said they wanted to be my girlfriend. But, with Jesi it was different. I declared it first, and I liked it that way,” added Arvhie.

Since then, they have been inseparable. They went through junior high, high school, and university as a couple. Although they were never in the same school, they managed to grow and shape each other. Not only did they meet the love of their life, they’ve also become each other’s bestest friend. Now, after more than 10 years together, Jesi & Arvhie can proudly say that they are forever bound in marriage.

“To be honest, I never thought that I would marry him. Because at that time, I wasn’t taking it seriously. I was in junior high school and the idea of marriage hadn’t crossed my mind. But our love grew. In high school I started to understand love more, and realized that I really love this person, hence we started dating more seriously,” said Jesi.

“I just knew she’s the one,” said Arvhie.

“Well, when you know you just know, right?” Jesi added.

Being a newly married couple must be fun and challenging at the same time. There are lots of adjustments to be made. Afterall, these are two different individuals that merge into one. How to continue to respect the individuality of these two people while still working in tune requires hard work and also wisdom from both sides.

“Romantic relationship for me is a relationship that appreciates and respects one another. Good communication is required. Listening to what your partner wants or needs is also very important. Learning to give in and empathize must always be done,” wisely said by Jesi.

“Being with Jesi taught me many new things. She successfully shaped me into a better person. Before, I was quite indifferent. But Jesi always tries to explain that she wants me to be more attentive. So I learned to pay more attention to Jesi. That also had an impact on my relationships with other people, I became more attentive to my surroundings. I came to understand that it doesn't always have to be about myself. I became more considerate of other people's feelings,” explained Arvhie.

There are always differences in relationships. How to communicate with each other without being demeaning is also an important thing to do. In Jesi & Arvhie’s case, communication is truly the key. To communicate is not only about stating your opinion on what is right on one side, but really to be able to listen and understand each other.

Showing affection is another important factor. Sometimes understanding that there are differences can solve all our insecurities about whether our partner really loves us or not. For example, Arvhie shows affection by encouraging Jesi to be herself. Giving freedom to Jesi and accepting her as she is, is Arvhie's way of showing his affection. For Jesi, showing affection is by taking care of Arvhie. Learning to cook is one of them. "Even though Arvhie never asked me to cook, I still wanted to learn how to cook. Because when I cook, I feel the satisfaction of being able to take care of my partner even though it’s just simple cooking.” Jesi said beamingly.

As Valentine's day is here... may the story of Jesi & Arvhie serve as a beautiful reminder of the power of love, the importance of communication, and compromise in a relationship. Hopefully we can continue to appreciate the presence of love and understand how it works in reality. It’s an emotion that we want to continue to cultivate so that they can grow into good things, for us, our partners, and also for those around us.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Eyebabes. Have a blissful one with your loved ones.